Hello MOPS mamas! We’ve begun our month of Embracing Rest During the Holiday Season. To start us off, we had a wonderful speaker today – Amanda Wilson, Lifestyle and Wellness Coach. She spoke on Creating Joyful Living, 3 Simple Secrets for Success. She can be found at amanda@YourMotionCoaching.com. She had so much to share on how to deal both physically and mentally with stress in our lives. She pointed out that we can’t control our external stressors (for example, bad events in the news) and there will always be some of these in our lives, so we have to learn to deal with them effectively. Here’s a brief recap for you:
Secret 1: Gratitude
- Take the good from our experiences, even during stressful moments.
- Try doing 3 Good Things, a technique developed by a doctor from Duke. Teaches us to rewire our brain towards gratitude. Within two hours of going to sleep, write down three good things that day, what our role was in making those good things happen, and identify the emotion we felt related to them.
Secret 2: Being Present
Tool #1: Create a Pause
- Take a mom time out and do something active like push-ups, breathing techniques, jumping jacks.
- Breathe using volcano or bunny breathing techniques.
Tool #2: Attention Training
- Use your senses to be aware of your environment and focus on each one.
- Give yourself permission to be _________. All emotions are OK!
- To take yourself out of fight or flight mode in a stressful situation or when making a hard decision: throw a ball against a wall, throw a ball with another person, do a Sodoku or crossword, anything to increase frontal lobe activity and improve focus and reason.
“We spend more time imagining future pleasure than experiencing joy in the present. In our effort to improve the present moment, we fail to appreciate how good it already is.” – Amit Sood, MD, The Mayo Clinic Guide for Stress-Free Living
Secret 3: Create a Plan
- Make it your journey, specific to your stressors, personality and life phase. Try to change YOUR world to help change THE world.
- Plan for imperfection, learn from mistakes (i.e. teachable moments). It’s fine if we’re not the best at everything!
- Practice the first two secrets often so they become a quick response to stress.
- Don’t use avoidance to deal with problems – this doesn’t actually address the stress.